This morning I woke up to a TIME cover story about the trans movement being at a tipping point and seeing my dear friend and sister Laverne Cox on the cover. Such a major media moment for a trans woman of color to be visible and vocal in this way, helping spark multiple conversations about identity, about the intersection of race, class, gender and so much more.
The cover story is not available online (you must purchase the magazine or get a digital subscription) but a behind-the-scenes video and Q&A with Laverne is.
Want to Un-Learn Your Socialized Niceness and Reinforce your Assertiveness? →
Practice By Using the Following Phrases When the Opportunity Arrises:
"I’m not interested."
"(Please) Leave me alone."
"I’d rather you not."
"That doesn’t interest me at all."
"You need to stop."
"That’s not what I said."
"I don’t owe you/anyone an explanation."
"That’s too personal."
"I would like some privacy."
"That doesn’t work for me."
"I’d like to be by myself."
"I’m going to leave now."
These words and phrases might evoke thoughts of reacting to someone bringing unwanted sexual advances. But how can we expect girls and women to be able to say no in suchextreme circumstances when we’ve been socialized to avoid confrontation in such “small” circumstances as when a man is talking us when we’d rather be left alone?
You can practice exercising and nurturing your assertiveness (and confidence) by incorporating phrases like this in your day-to-day life.
repeat after me friends:
- vaginas are self-cleaning
- there is no such thing as a dirty vagina
- unless you have an infection
- in which case your vagina still isn’t dirty but you should really go see a doctor
- but yeah
- vaginas aren’t “clean” or “dirty” they’re self-cleaning acidic muscular tracts
- so fuck off
Sorry, but what;s the difference between transexual and transgender?
transsexuals hang from the ceiling and transgenders grow up from the ground